Jill Weatherholt

Writing Stories of Love, Faith and Happy Endings While Enjoying the Journey

SUMMER SPOTLIGHT: KATE CRIMMINS

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Link to my blog: www.coffeekatblog.com

Thanks to Jill Weatherholt for inviting me to participate. I have been a fan of hers for a long time and it’s an honor to post.

In blogging years, I’m an old-timer. It’s been over five years.  It started out as a marketing tool to continue a professional presence after retirement but quickly turned into a humor blog about cats, Starbucks, stupid people and anything else on my mind.

When the evil humor demons came out of the box, I couldn’t get them back in. Once in a while, I’ll do a business project but I can’t wait to get back to my happy place at my keyboard with a mocha latte and some cat trying to hack up a hairball. And snark. Lots of snark!

The connections you make as a blogger are amazing and so are the things you learn. Unlike other social media where you post selfies or what you are currently eating (and there is nothing wrong with that), most bloggers post stories and experiences, often accompanied by beautiful photos.

What are some of the events in your life that made you who you are?

I was one of the original latchkey kids. My Dad died when I was ten and it changed my world forever. Overnight we went from being a “Cleaver” family to a single Mom family. At that time, it was very unusual. My mother, who had been a stay at home Mom typical in the 50s, went back to work. Jobs for middle-aged women were not good paying. There wasn’t money for extras or a lot of time. I had to pick up responsibility fast. I learned to cook and during the summer, I did the cleaning and helped with laundry. My life was very different from my friends’ lives but I didn’t recognize it at the time. The need to be responsible early changed my life and made me more focused and independent.

If you could make one rule that everyone had to follow, what rule would you make?

“Kindness rules!” The past year has been painful and I’ve seen long-term friendships ripped apart. (Yes, there are people I am still avoiding!) Getting back to basic kindness would go a long way toward healing. You don’t need to have the same beliefs. Tolerance and kindness should be a basic rule. Drop the snark (except for funny blog posts) especially on social media.

What would be some of the most annoying things about having yourself as a roommate?

I don’t like people, especially up front, personal and in my face all the time. I would not make a great roommate. My neatness is annoying. I like peace and quiet. When I moved back to my hometown 20 years ago, I lived a block from an all-women’s college campus. I considered renting out a room to a student. One margarita and I got over that idea. Privacy is important to me and the possibility of being matched with someone more outgoing was frightening.

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Author: Jill Weatherholt

My name is Jill Weatherholt and I’m a writer. I have a full-time job, but at night and on the weekend, I pursue my passion, writing. I write modern stories about love, friendship and forgiveness. I started this blog as a way to share my journey toward publication and to create a community for other new writers. Raised in the Washington, DC area, I’ve lived in Charlotte, North Carolina since 2004. I hold a degree in Psychology from George Mason University and a Certification in Paralegal Studies from Duke University. My first book, SECOND CHANCE ROMANCE, published by Harlequin Love Inspired released on February 21, 2017 and is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.com. I was the first place winner in the Dream Quest One Short Story Contest in the Winter 2014-2015 competition. In 2014, I placed second in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest. I was also a top ten finalist in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest in 2012 and 2013. I’m a 2010 and 2012 winner of the NaNoWriMo Contest. I love to connect readers, visit me at jillweatherholt.com

144 thoughts on “SUMMER SPOTLIGHT: KATE CRIMMINS

  1. Great answers Kate………. and none of them surprised me! Love your sense of humor. 🙂

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  2. I’ve seen Kate’s photo and comments on various blog posts. Now as I read her story here, I admire her as a brave woman with a ton of self-knowledge.

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  3. I love Kate (snark and all) and her blog is a Laugh Out Loud experience that makes great fun of life.

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  4. So glad that I found your blog Kate! You answered these questions in the same entertaining way as your posts. You always bring smiles and laughter to my heart ,and I can’t get too much of that!

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  5. I agree that the connections made through blogging are truly amazing. I also agree that basic kindness goes a long way towards healing. Thank you to Jill for hosting, I loved learning more about Kate here.

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  6. Hi Jill! Hi Kate! What a fun surprise to see you here. Yes, I enjoy your blog immensely. We women really enjoy ourselves when we “let loose” with the humor that perhaps a man wouldn’t understand, but we do all too well. The fear of wearing the wrong clothes, of feeling ‘stupid’ when we exercise, of not understanding someone ages younger than us. All these items that can be a bit taunting, become FUN and funny when we share our insecurities. I think Kate does that so well. Great voice in her blog and of course here, in her interview. Nice going, you two!

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  7. Hi, Kate! Great to meet you! I wouldn’t make a good roommate either. Don’t understand how my hubby or dogs continue to live with me. Gotta shower and have that first cup of coffee before I can even utter my first word. Lol. Waving to Jill! Happy weekend, ladies. Stay cool! 😎

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  8. Hello, Kate! I’m glad you’re blogging! I love your rule. I think kindness should be a rule.
    I also learned to cook and clean at a young age. Nowadays, very few of the kids in my area know how to cook anything.
    I can’t blame you for not wanting to rent a room. Privacy is important.
    Have a good weekend.
    Thank you for hosting, Jill. Hope you have a good weekend!

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  9. Hi, Kate. I had a simular childhood. My dad died when I was ten as well. I always wondered what it would have been like had my dad not died when I was so young. I too did laundry and cooked. These skills are still with me today. It was nice getting to know you and thanks to Jill for the post.

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  10. I love that you looked at your changing life as a responsibility as a child and didn’t resent the change. What a role model you must have been.

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  11. I’m with you, Cupcake ~> Kindness echoes!
    And . . . alone time = priceless!!!

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  13. Hi, Kate, I’ve seen your name pop up so often in so many of my friends’ blogs … it’s a pleasure to finally meet you! We have a few things in common: cats, Starbucks, single-parent household, snark. What fun 🙂 Thanks, Jill, for hosting Kate!

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  14. Very interesting interview. I especially identified with your comment that your lives were different from other kids but you didn’t notice. Mine was too. We didn’t have much money, but my mom never mentioned it, just made ends meet. There’s a lot to be said for that approach, isn’t there?

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  15. Great answers, Kate. I see so many faces/names that are familiar among these comments. I was fortunate enough to have both my parents growing up although I have since lost my dad as well. I did have a roommate for a while and things were fine until we both got boyfriends. Then it was a little trickier to manage. Thanks, Jill, for spotlighting a great blogger!

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  16. Hi Kate. My heart cringes when I hear of children who lose a parent. My heart goes out to you in your loss. My SIL lost her mom at age ten. She struggles with female relationships, and in my over-analytic brain, I can’t help but wonder if that is a result of losing the mother-daughter relationship so early. Not that such a thing happens to every child who loses a parent, because we each have different “make-up” in our genes that may cause different reactions.

    BTW, I love snark. I don’t think it’s the snark-humor that’s causing so much discourse. I think it’s the downright online cruelty. When people aren’t actually face-to-face with someone, they seem to think it’s an open field of accusations that they can make. As if somehow they aren’t really speaking to a human being on the other end. Sad.

    Enjoyed reading about you. Keep up the good snark-humor.

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    • You are onto something there. I did have trouble with male relationships which a counselor said was due to my father’s death. I was 40 when I lost my mother and it was also traumatic but in a different way. Because of my father’s death, we were very close (except for those very few hormone years!). She was a best friend (along with pointing out every run in my stockings). Snark is best when you make fun of yourself or something very general. It’s never good when directed at a real live person. Everyone has feelings no matter how much they deny it. That’s what’s been so painful this past year. It’s always been directed at someone.

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      • Funny you should mention feelings, I just posted a blog about that topic this week. And, I posted about seeing a counselor. 🙂 I talked to my counselor about my SIL, and she told me it was likely because her relationship with her mom didn’t get a chance to mature.

        I can see why you’d be close with your mother, since she was mostly your only parent. I can only imagine how hard that loss was, too. And, I know about moms pointing out every run in stockings. 😉

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    • Hi Lori! Thanks so much for stopping by to meet, Kate. You’re not kidding about the online cruelty. Reading comments on some posted news articles are downright frightening when it comes to the hatred. And don’t get me started about Facebook. I’m glad we bloggers are a kind and respective community. Have a great weekend!

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  17. Great interview. A little kindness and thoughtful consideration goes a long way!

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  18. Hi Jill, Hi Kate….what a fun post. Entertaining and just what I need for a hot, humid day in GA. As an “only” I cherish my privacy!! lol

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    • I was raised as an “only” because my brothers were so much older and out of the house. I wasn’t even all that fond of sleep-overs. It was fun on Friday night but by 9 a.m. Saturday morning I was ready for my friend to go home (or me to go home if I was elsewhere).

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    • Hi Jackie! Thanks so much for stopping by to meet, Kate. She’s such fun! Hasn’t the humidity been brutal? I like the heat, but I can do without dew points in the mid 70’s. Yuck! Have a great week, my friend!

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  19. Lovely to meet Kate over here. I’m a fan of snark, lots of snark. 🙂 There’s always lots of room in life for a good sense of humor!

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  20. I love that Kate’s number one rule for the betterment of the world order is KINDNESS. Kate, I’m with you all the way!

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  21. I liked this look at you through a different angle, Kate. Very interesting! And your commenting on your blog haha!

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  22. I remember the first time I was able to rent an apartment all by myself. I thought I had died and gone to heaven. I love my alone time too. I also agree about the need for kindness, especially today. And, if it’s not possible to be kind, it’s best to keep ones mouth shut… something I need to remember to do more and more. Great interview, Kate!

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    • Yes! I struggle if calling someone out for being a doofus qualifies as being mean. For the past year or so I’ve used the technique of telling myself that someone who has just been really mean had something bad happen to them. Somehow I can be more sympathetic (or at least non-reactive) if I think they were just diagnosed with a terminal disease.

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    • Welcome, Janis! I agree, often saying nothing, speaks volumes. When I first moved out into my own place, I checked under the beds each night. LOL! I got over it and enjoyed my alone time. Thanks for visiting with our friend, Kate!

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  23. An amusing guest! I liked Kate’s answers to the questions and the memories she shares.

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  24. Hello Kate! It’s great to meet you. I love all your answers, but does kindness HAVE TO apply to extremely annoying telemarketers?? 😉 Just kidding….or am I? I am going to hop over and check out your blog now!

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    • Hi Patsy! That’s a great question. We are bombarded with telemarketing calls, but with Caller ID, we can choose whether or not to pick up the phone. The Do Not Call Registry is a joke! Thanks for popping over. I’m looking forward to your turn in the spotlight next week! xo

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    • We don’t answer the phone unless we recognize the name or number. We’ve had them call close to midnight and very early in the morning. Perhaps they forget about the time difference? I turned the ringer off in the bedroom and save my kindness for people I can see.

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      • We don’t have Caller ID unfortunately. But we have never gotten any calls that late or that early! And yes, the time difference is probably an issue. We don’t have a phone in the bedroom either. Yes, I do, too. I used to be extremely patient and kind with telemarketers in my younger years. 🙂

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  25. Kate, we have crossed paths and even commented occasionally on subjects. It is true, not sure after ten years of my single life in a small, cozy apartment, I may not be “roommate material!” I don’t have any pets, I have changed direction three distinct times of blogging but we are definitely in the same “Jill Weatherholt fan club!!” 🌸🏵 Smiles, Robin

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  26. I totally agree, Kate – I am a hermit and I love being like that. Kindness is a great number one rule and the world needs more of it every day 🙂

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  27. I just wrote a post, Kate, about the seven great benefits to spending time alone. I appreciate you stating your position so clearly. It’s refreshing to read of another woman (many other women when I read the comments) who “vants to be alone” as Greta Garbo said.

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  28. Hi Jill. Hi Kate. I’m sorry about your father, Kate. I’m glad to hear your got through the loss and came out stronger on the other side.

    Kindness is a very good rule.

    Even though, like most writers, I’m an introvert and value my alone time, I enjoyed having roommates in college. My sophomore roommate was one of the messiest people I’ve ever seen, and I’m pretty neat. Our room was set up with my bed and desk on one side and hers on the other, so she kept her mess on her side, and I kept my neatness on the mine. It worked out quite well. I guess I was able to compartmentalize. I liked her, and it was nice to have someone to go to dinner with.

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    • Hi Nicki! I’m picturing your roommate on a Hoarders episode. That’s great that you both were able to keep your differences separate and still enjoy time together. Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

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    • I did college at night so there was no roommate. I had a full time day job (the company was paying for my education!). I think it’s much easier when you are younger. I have an old friend. For a while it looked like she was leaving her husband and she asked to stay with me. She had two teenage daughters that while delightful were accident prone. Like big accidents. One left the driver’s car door open while retrieving something and another car drove by and sheared it off. I was terrified and ended up telling her it would have to be temporary (like a week to a month max) because I didn’t think I could stand the commotion. She is still with her husband 25 years later and still talking about leaving.

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  29. Interesting snippets, Kate, and welcome to ‘Jill’s gang’. 🙂 🙂 It’s a great Summer series and I like opening new doors.

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  30. Great answers Kate! I’m cracking up at the powers of that margarita … hahaha!

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  31. Hi Jill! Hi Kate! I apologise for the late response – I’m away from home. I loved reading your answers to Jill’s questions, Kate. I am definitely in the ‘kindness is the answer to the world’s problems; camp. I’m also someone who needs plenty of time to myself – not easy on a family holiday! I hope you’ve both had a great weekend. xx

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    • Hi Clare! No apologies necessary…you’re welcome anytime. I hope you’re enjoying your time away. Based on your comment, hopefully it’s just you and Richard. 🙂 Thanks for stopping by to learn more about Kate. Enjoy your trip! xo

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      • Thanks Jill! No, not just Richard and me but also Elinor and Alice too! However, it is lovely to all be together again for a while and Switzerland is gorgeous! xo

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  32. Even after following you for some time, Kate, I learned something new today😊
    But, in part, that’s what this is about, isn’t it..:)

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  33. An interesting intvu; thank you both.

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  34. Hi Kate and Jill! I’m going to have to remember to visit Kate more often for more laughs. I hope you’re both having a great summer so far!

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  35. Nice to learn more about you, Kate– we have a lot in common. But I have to disagree with your statement: “In blogging years, I’m an old-timer. It’s been over five years.” You’re just a spring chicken in this blogging world. Trust me. 😉

    And Jill, thanks for hosting these guest posts. Always fun to meet new bloggers in such an easy and relaxed way.

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  36. I’m all for “kindness rules!” Let’s put it on signs up on street corners and practice it daily xx Great guest post, Kate! And nice to see it here, Jill 🙂

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