Would you take offense if someone called you a “Pollyanna?”
Years ago, a co-worker paid a visit to my office. She was experiencing personal difficulties in her life and needed to talk.
I listened as she went on about struggles in her marriage. She later paused and asked, “What do you think about that?” When it comes to matters of the heart, I’d learned years before, it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself.
She looked me in the eyes and waited for an answer. Did she want me to agree with her? That was something I couldn’t do, so I played it safe. I suggested she try to focus on the positive things in their relationship, and in her own life.
“Jill, you’re such a Pollyanna!” she snapped.
I’m sure she never intended to hurt my feelings, but she did.
According to Merriam-Webster, a Pollyanna is “a person characterized by irrepressible optimism and a tendency to find good in everything.” Is there something wrong with this attitude? By her accusatory tone, it appeared I was wrong.
It’s funny, many years have passed since that day, but I remember it like it was yesterday. At the time, I did take offense. Now, I think of it as a compliment. I’d much rather live my life being thought of as a Pollyanna than a curmudgeon. Living that way has carried me through some difficult times.
Do you feel comfortable offering relationship advice to friends or co-workers?
**This will be my last post for 2015. Thank you all for a wonderful year. You’re the best! Be safe and have a fantastic holiday season! ❤