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Summer Spotlight: Shel Harrington

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 Over the past few months, I’ve really enjoyed getting to see who’s behind those miniature pictures next to the comments on Jill’s blog. I feel privileged to be able to have the same opportunity to show you there is more to me than red glasses and a “You’re kidding, right?” facial expression. Thanks, Jill!

Living in a house named Dragonroost with my beloved spouse of almost 37 years, I spend most of the work day practicing Family Law. You know – divorce, custody, child support, etc. About 20% of my practice is representing children whose parents are going through divorce or custody disputes. It’s a world that has touched most of us in one way or another. While there are often rainy days in that world, there’s a lot of positive work to be done and, as you can imagine, it is rife with blog fodder!

As if the day job’s not enough of that stuff, I’m an adjunct professor teaching Family Law at a law school in Oklahoma City. I also authored a book for attorneys on the subject. And that is why, when reading for pleasure, I most often retreat into fast-paced thrillers and suspense novels that allow total escapism.

My writing life began at an early age with reams of bad poems, angsty essays, and dramatic diary entries that kept my mother on her toes for years (I thought the woman was psychic!). I always felt like I was ‘suppose’ to write, but squelched the notion as I dealt with the heavy reading and writing requirements of my profession. Until about eight years ago. That’s when I started going to writing conferences for the sole purpose of doing what I thought I was supposed to be doing. I learned, grew, met like-minded people and got motivated.

But I disdained social media. I thought blogs were on-line diaries. Hearing about people tweeting each other made me giggle like a 5th grader hearing the word ‘penis.’ And Facebook entries were things I used as evidence in custody battles.

Finally, upon hearing for the 193rd time that a writer can’t make it today without having a social media presence, I bit the bullet. I signed up for Facebook December 2012 and was delighted to learn that it could be used for other things besides making a public ass out of oneself. By this time I knew that blogs could be a wonderful way to communicate and, having a passion for talking about how NOT to get divorced, I started the ShelHarrington.com blog. After a year of enjoying the benefits of getting out info, getting in helpful feedback, and connecting with other bloggers and readers, my best friend and I started another blog to stay connected from our respective states and to poke fun at where we are in life. It’s called Fat-Bottom-Fifties Get Fierce. While you don’t have to be over 50 or have a fat bottom to hang out with us there, a sense of humor is mandatory. Although I don’t care who knows I co-author it, my name is nowhere to be seen on the site. It is my assumption that when potential clients Google my name they would prefer to see references to what a fierce attorney I am rather than references to my age and body type.

Taking on Twitter is on my to-do list. I plan to get right on that. As soon as I can say “tweet me” with a straight face.

And now for the Q and A portion of our program.

What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?

Two events tie for that distinction. First, early into my marriage, my husband and I moved from suburbia – a Michigan world where we had spent our entire lives surrounded by family and friends – to the alien land of Oklahoma where we knew no one and worked opposite shifts because we only had one car. My first week in Oklahoma I heard “I’m Proud to be an Okie from Miscogee” about 32 times, experienced the horror of a half-mile wide tornado coming toward our apartment with no idea where to take shelter, and had to deal with a surprise visit from a nude Peeping Tom. [When the police questioned me regarding the latter incident, I explained that he was so close to my window that I could only see him from chest to knees. They asked for a description. Really? I again explained the limited portion of him that I had seen. When they asked the same question for a third time, in frustration I snapped: “Apparently he was brunette with naturally curly hair.” Who knew a cop could turn so red??] Months later, in an attempt to alleviate the saturating loneliness, I looked through the phone book and found a person with my unusual maiden name, called him up and asked if he had relatives on the east coast. The surprised responder said he thought so. It was a short conversation.
The second event was being diagnosed last year with invasive lobular breast cancer. While there were some emotional and physical hurdles to jump, the most difficult part of that situation was seeing the pain in the eyes of those who loved me and knew they couldn’t fix it for me, and knowing I couldn’t fix that for them.
Both events were filled with blessings, lessons learned, amazing people, enhanced faith, incredible growth and positive outcomes. I wouldn’t have chosen either. Nor would I change anything.

If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would you meet?

Picking one of anything isn’t my strong suit. I would love to hang out with Barbara Bush, Jimmy Carter, Pope Francis, and Ted Koppel. Not because of religion or politics, but in spite of them. When I analyzed my choices, I realized the common denominators were that each comes across as a straight-shooter, humble, compassionate, authentic and has a broad-world view because of their life experiences that I am fascinated by. I listened to books on tape by Jimmy Carter and Barbara Bush that they read themselves. When they were over, especially with regard to Barb’s (as I came to think of her), I was saddened that my new friend would not be driving to work with me anymore.

What do you miss most about being a kid?

The certainty that adults are good, right, and know everything. What a rude awakening that was to find out how human they all were. And what jerks some of them were.
I also miss how big everything was. For instance, when we would visit New Bedford, Massachusetts as kids, one whole day would be devoted to going over to the “French side” of town to visit my mother’s relatives, then over to the “Portuguese side” of town to see my father’s relatives. We stayed a half-hour or so and drove all the way to the next stop for another half hour, covering six or seven relatives on a good day. Visiting as an adult, I was appalled how everything had shrunk. Apparently everyone lives within blocks of each other. And their houses had gotten smaller, too.

What do you think the greatest invention has been?

Hay balers. For round bales. Seeing a field full of randomly placed hayrolls absolutely makes my day. Hayrolls bathed in sunlight, hayrolls shrouded in morning haze, hayrolls sillouetted against a sunset streaked sky . . . I am ridiculously smitten with hayrolls. And I’m pretty sure I can be heard for miles around at the end of the season doing one of those slow-motion “nooooooooooooooooooo” wails as the hayrolls start to form lines in preparation for being sold, moved, or winterized in white plastic jackets like jumbo marshmallows.
The ‘cut and paste’ feature on a word processor is a close second.

If you could learn to do anything, what would it be?

Zip off witty retorts that would knock people’s socks off in the moment instead of receiving the brilliant insight after the phone has been hung up, the person has walked away, or the party is over.

Thank you so much for participating in the spotlight, Shel. You were great…as I knew you would be! I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Up next week it’s Yolanda McAdam.

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Author: Jill Weatherholt

My name is Jill Weatherholt and I’m a writer. I have a full-time job, but at night and on the weekend, I pursue my passion, writing. I write modern stories about love, friendship and forgiveness. I started this blog as a way to share my journey toward publication and to create a community for other new writers. Raised in the Washington, DC area, I’ve lived in Charlotte, North Carolina since 2004. I hold a degree in Psychology from George Mason University and a Certification in Paralegal Studies from Duke University. My first book, SECOND CHANCE ROMANCE, will release in March, 2017. It's now able for pre-order on Amazon. I was the first place winner in the Dream Quest One Short Story Contest in the Winter 2014-2015 competition. In 2014, I placed second in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest. I was also a top ten finalist in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest in 2012 and 2013. I’m a 2010 and 2012 winner of the NaNoWriMo Contest. I love to connect readers, visit me at jillweatherholt.com

119 thoughts on “Summer Spotlight: Shel Harrington

  1. What a fascinating read that was, Shel! Seems I arrived at Jill’s at just the right time. 🙂
    Lovely to meet you and I like your perspective very much. Stay well!

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  2. Great post Shel – it is so wonderful to see how your great spirit and positive perspective shines through despite some major life challenges. I am certainly enjoying getting to know you through following your blogs. Love your take on the best invention, laughed out loud at your description of the peeping tom – but perish the thought of a half-mile wide tornado!! I felt so deeply for you over the cancer situation – it’s so hard for us ‘fixers’ to first of all admit we cannot fix this one and then to have to watch our loved ones coping………… or not, with the situation. It’s quite something to go through. Thanks for letting us in!

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  3. I was the same way about social media before I published a book. I loved the fact that when my name was Googled, only my professional info came up. Not so anymore. But like you, I enjoyed it more than I expected. It was a nice surprise.

    Such a busy life! Good luck with it all!

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  4. Shel, this was such a pleasure to read over my morning coffee. You are a brilliant writer, and you captivated me with your story from word one. Can’t wait to check out your humor blog. Sounds like something right up my alley. 🙂 Two things I’m curious about, if you’re not opposed to answering them here: what was the impetus for the move to Oklahoma? It must have been the right choice, since you’re still an Okie! And where are you in your cancer treatment?

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    • Hi Gwen! I’ve hung out with you more than a time or two at 4:00 a.m, at your place – I assume you were too busy writing to notice me loitering about at that hour!

      The path to OK? My husband had been laid off from General Motors for about a year and a half in the Detroit metro area. I was still in school, we both worked restaurant jobs and he worked whatever odd construction jobs he could pick up. We got a call on a Wednesday afternoon informing us that the new OKC GM plant was hiring, and if he wanted a job he needed to be there Monday morning. So, off he went with a louvered lounge chair to sleep on and some plasticware. I stayed and finished the semester I was in and followed two months later. What a culture shock! From a land where everybody (publicly) minded their own business and didn’t talk to strangers, to a land where residents told you their life story as they passed through the checkout line (which I found out first hand working at JC Penneys!) It was also, without a doubt, the best thing that could have happened to us – with regard to both personal growth and the longevity of our marriage. In MI we were entrenched in a routine of family and activities we had always done with no incentive to grow. We were forced to with no support system. And we needed to grow together or be alone. I actually changed my name to the made-up ‘Shel’ at that time and started the journey toward being the person I wanted to be instead of the person I was expected (and assumed) to be. Does God know what He’s doing, or what??

      In June I had my first 6-month CLEAR scan (woo hoooo!) I’m on a 5 yr regimen of Femora and 6 mos scans. Fortunately, I haven’t experienced many side effects of Femora that many others do. The most notable side effect for me is stiff joints – especially my hands. Which (once I learned it was a drug side-effect and not some new mysterious disease to deal with) is waaaaaay better than dealing with the alternative. The upside to Femora? Another known side effect is weight gain. So whenever I’m tempted to blame any inability to drop weight on the pizza and beer I just can’t seem to give up, I can (with back of hand pressed to forehead) bemoan the trials and tribulations of taking Femora! I’m going to re-vist the experience a bit on the Fat Bottom blog next month during BC awareness month.

      Well, if you’re still reading after this long-winded response, I appreciate you asking and I appreciate the new internet friendship, Gwen – looking forward to hanging out with you more in our blogospheres!

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      • Thank you so much for sharing your story, Shel…I hoped you would. WOO HOO on the six month scan!!!! I’m praying for you, my friend!

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      • Shel, Thanks so much for sharing your stories here in the comments. The number of breast cancer survivors seems to be increasing all the time, and it’s so encouraging. I’m sure it has a lot to do with public awareness and people like yourself, who aren’t afraid to discuss it in such a public forum. Fantastic that you are clear, and how lucky that you respond positively to the Femora. I’m hopeful that luck will continue to be on your side, and I’ll look forward to those upcoming posts.

        Boy, can I relate to your decision to move, as we were in a similar situation 25 years ago. My husband and I are native Clevelanders, a rust belt city similar to Detroit in many ways. It was 1990, he had a degree in Chemistry and an MBA, and he worked at a hotel driving the shuttle van to the airport. He searched for a “real job” in the Cleveland area for more than a year with no leads, but as soon as he widened his search to out-of-state, the offers came in. We left our families and Cleveland’s depressed economy behind, moved to Chicago, and we’ve never looked back. Like you, we’ve had absolutely no regrets.

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    • Hi Gwen! Oh yes, Shel is indeed a brilliant writer and such a quick-wit. Thanks for stopping by, I’m sure you’ll enjoy both blogs.
      Happy Weekend!

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  5. Shel, glad to meet you! Wow! What a post! You’re a born writer! I’m sure you’re a comfort to clients going through their legal agonies. Like Gwen, I also wondered why you moved to Oklahoma.
    What a fighter you are too. We fixers do try to jump in. Thanks for being honest about your battle with breast cancer.
    I know what you mean about social media shyness. I’m not crazy about it either. Had to be dragged to it kicking and screaming.

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    • Great to meet you, too, Marie! While some of my clients may find me a comfort, I’m sure there’s more than a couple that would use some different adjectives! I take a pretty hard line when it comes to playing games and/or not prioritizing the kids. Some appreciate the refocus and some, well . . . not so much!

      Glad we are both conquering our social media nemesis. Or should I say ‘former’ nemesis?!

      On another note, your last post brought tears to my eyes, Marie. Thank you for sharing such a personal experience in spite of the pain it caused you to do so, and for the reminder that all our pettiness is a waste of the precious time we have. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers during this tough time.

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    • Hi L! It was quite the post…and to think she was anxious. 🙂 I knew it would be brilliant
      I worked with divorce attorney for eighteen years and I never met one as remarkable as Shel.
      I hope you’re doing okay and that you met the deadline…I’m sure you did. xo

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  6. You still crack me up Dear Friend! And no, selecting just one has never been your M.O. but that is one of the bonuses of being your friend – I get to experience more too! So glad others are getting to see what an amazing woman, inspiring colleague, and best friend you are!

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    • MagB!! Thanks for visiting me here! I know with everything you’re dealing with right now finding even a few minutes deviation from the schedule is a challenge. I thought the whole “can’t pick just one” issue was a food thing – apparently, for me, it’s a LIFE thing! Indecisive or just plain greedy?? Thanks, dear friend, for the kind words – see ya soon over at FBFGF!

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    • Hi MagB! Thank you so much for stopping by! I’m thrilled that others are having the chance to meet our friend, Shel…she is incredible. I’m blessed to have her as a friend.
      Enjoy your weekend!

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  7. Love your blog title! I have to visit it just because of that!

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  8. Shel, my husband and I are ALWAYS saying that we think of just the right witty thing to reply to someone AFTER they are gone! Lovely to meet you, and I will be checking out your blog! 🙂

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  9. Great interview Shel! Your sense of humor is right up my alley. It’s true what you say about the idea that adults are all-wise when we’re children. It was a comforting thought back then and now I have to pretend for my little one… knowing that he will tell me all the ways in which I was wrong when he’s older. 😀

    Have a great weekend, to you and Jill!

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  10. Thank you Shel for a lovely post. Your wit and spirit shines through in so many ways. Being a fat bottom over fifty I know I’ll enjoy your blog and already signed on. I’m ambivalent about social media also. There’s this crazy free-spirited me and then there’s this must remain professional side that keeps rearing its ugly head, and I’m retired.

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    • Welcome home, SK!

      I’m straddling the professional vs. personal social media line myself. My rule is if I would be embarrassed if a client read it, I just don’t put it out there – anywhere. Because nothing is REALLY private, no matter how many ‘privacy’ settings we employ. And the reality is that my main reason for jumping into social media was to enhance my professional reputation so I could continue to expand upon it with my writing. Having jumped in for professional reasons, I SURE am enjoying the personal element and being able to connect here with other creative types from all over the country.

      I’m delighted to meet you, SK – I have a real soft spot for RNs. Those who do the job well deserve all that is good in life! One of my favorite people – my mom – is also an RN. She lives in Titusville – about 45 minutes from you!

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      • I took an early retirement a few years ago. I have seen dramatic changes during my thirty years in the field. I can’t say all of them were in the patient’s best interest.

        We go to Titusville about once a month for seafood at Dixie Crossroads 🙂 I love the Space Coast.

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      • I hope to head that way in November. If you’re going to be around the Dixie, I’d love to meet you!

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    • Hi SK! I’m so happy to introduce you to Shel and her blogs. I’ve had many laugh out loud moments reading her posts and her comments. Enjoy!

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  11. A witty person you are indeed, with just the right mix of clever, earthy, and quirky in your writing. Thanks for sharing a bit of your story with us today!

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    • Thanks, Eric – such an assessment is much appreciated coming from someone with the stellar sense of humor you have!

      Actually, you kind of described my house. Four austere oval-framed, bubble-glass 1920s portraits of relatives share my dining room with 1960s Danish modern furniture, a carousel chair, a 3 foot tall junkyard metal jailbird sculpture (complete with ball and chain) and the obligatory rooster facing off with a dragon that can be found in every room of my house. And there you have a preview of Dragonroost!

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    • Hi Eric! Both you and Shel have such a great sense of humor, I’m always sure to leave your blogs smiling. 🙂
      Enjoy your weekend!

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  12. Very nice to read your terrific post, Shel! What an interesting life you have led–are leading–and with such talent! Thanks for sharing your story with us. 🙂

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  13. Good share. Love the title of your shared blog. Must go have a peek.

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  14. Haha, this was a great read Shel – very pleased to meet you – I’m heading over to your blog rightaway – you made me laugh!

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  15. What a well thought out and beautifully articulated response to Jill’s questions, Shel. I so enjoyed reading this. The whole thing is so great that I’m not even stuck back at brunette with naturally curly hair. What if the perpetrator was the cop? And, yeah, I can’t help but agree with you that the greatest invention has been the hay baler. Silly people who don’t realize that!

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    • Never thought of that, Luanne – you think he was just digging for a compliment?? It sure didn’t help when one of the cops told me it was probably someone that lived in our apartment complex because people generally didn’t go far without their clothes on. Neighbors probably thought I had a navel fetish the way I scrutinized each male one I saw at the complex pool!

      You know what’s even sillier than people who don’t appreciate the hay baler? People who think a SQUARE baler counts. Everyone knows those little square bales look ridiculous!

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      • Look at it this way ;): he exposes himself, then he goes out on the call because after all he’s the officer in the vicinity. What he likes is to be the one to get the response from the victim to the police.
        Maybe I should switch to fiction?
        Square balers. Who ever heard of such a thing.

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    • Hi Luanne! I agree, Shel did a fantastic job with the questions. The Peeping Tom story was just too funny…classis Shel. 🙂
      Happy Weekend!

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  16. Shel nice to meet you I just started following your fat bottom blog due to turning fifty in a matter of weeks. You have a wicked sense of humour and I look forward to reading more. The social media thing is like walking through mounds of trash to reach like minded souls. It is possible, because I found Jill and she has introduced me to many talented people just like you. Thanks for sharing your world. Good luck with all your projects.

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    • Thanks, Kath – having just read “Doggone Who Wants to be 50?” I know you are (almost!) one of our peeps! I followed you right back – you had me at “color me happy!” After living our first 15 years of marriage in apartments and a mobile home (4 square rooms in a row!) I swore if I ever had a house there would be no square rooms and no white walls. I was able to see that declaration come to fruition! My husband, who came from a family with 9 kids, told me when we had the house built that I could do as I pleased regarding colors and shapes (which is why we have a “turret” on a one-story house!) but the one thing he HAD to have was a dining room big enough that nobody had to pull in their chair for people to be able to pass as they got up and done. And so it was!

      Looking forward to enjoying more of your art and your husband’s photography – just one more thing to thank Jill for!

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    • Hi Kath! That’s right…the big 50 will be coming up soon. I’ll be right behind you come next July. 🙂 So pleased you met Shel, she’s great!
      Enjoy the weekend!

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  17. Shel, I enjoyed reading this so much. You seem like an incredibly interesting person. I still cannot get over that half mile tornado headed straight your way. I did a solo show with the theme of natural disasters a few years ago. (Paintings and collages) But to see that in real life?

    Also the way you look at those bales of hay. Nice image. Rolled up like that. I never thought about where they go afterwards. I really liked the people you listened to in your car, reading their autobiographies too. How you thought of them as friends. I can see why you and Jill are blog friends.

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  18. I have absolutely no bias, but I LOVED reading Shel’s profile. Thank you so much for featuring her! I am one of her HUGEST fans. 😉 Reading her stuff is almost (not quite!) as good as being in the same room as her!

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  19. What a nice read as I sit in a car for 5 hours on the way to visit my daughter in college. In fact, I read your post to my husband and he enjoyed it as well. 😎
    You are one very busy woman! Wow! I cannot wait to visit your blogs, particularly the Fat Bottom Fifties one. I am already laughing! Turning 50 last year is what motivated me to start a blog since I am sure you will agree, brings with it a whole new set of “issues”. Especially when faced with serious health challenges. I am so sorry to read about your cancer diagnosis and hope that you are fighting if not winning that battle. It sounds like you self medicate with a large dose of humor which is my number one choice of drug for battling my Rheumatoid Arthritis. You can’t beat its side effects!

    I enjoyed your answers to Jill’s questions too. I hope you have a lovely weekend! 🌹

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    • Hey – it’s my pop-tart buddy! I’m so with you about humor getting us through most things – the whole ‘laugh or cry’ choice! I’m doing great and am currently cancer-free – thanks for asking. I know RA is a tough one – you’re in my prayers, Maria. While I’m not getting to meet all these wonderful bloggers in person like you got a chance to do recently, I am loving the opportunity to get to connect with you and so many others in Jill’s blogging community – fun, fun, fun!

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      • Your pop-tart buddy is back from her whirlwind trip for Parent’s Weekend with her daughter! She truly can’t be my daughter because when I took her out to buy snacks for the dorm room, she chose all healthy snacks! No pop-tarts, frosted flakes or oreos! Where did I go wrong? 🙂

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    • Hey Brick! I’m so happy you’re road-tripping to see your daughter…I know you’ve missed her. Yes indeed, whether we’re dealing with health issues or other bumps in the road, laughter and smiles are the best cure.
      Enjoy the weekend with your beautiful daughter! xo

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  20. Hi Shel. Reading your writing, I have the impression that you’re a natural writer. I imagine your fingers flying over the keyboard…despite stiff joints. “Dragonroost.” What a wonderful name! Was it named before you moved in?

    Working in Family Law requires a bushel full of strength and compassion. My daughter is a prosecutor who works in Child Support, and she does her best to remain hopeful, even after repeated disappointments.

    My publisher set up a Twitter account for me, but I haven’t started using it yet. I don’t know if I ever will.

    I really enjoyed meeting you. Best wishes. And thanks to Jill for the opportunity.

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    • Hi Nicki – it’s a pleasure to meet you!

      We had the house built 16 years ago. All our friends and family are out of state so Oklahoma became a ‘destination’ for them to visit. Knowing that we would have regular company, we bought a Guest Book for my (first ever!) guest room. My best friend, Marg, and her daughters were our first visitors a couple of weeks after we moved in. Margaret insisted I give it a name so that when she signed the Guest Book she could talk about her visit to ?. I loved the idea. My husband collects dragons and I had just started collecting roosters (a Portuguese good luck symbol) for the kitchen. Thus, Dragon + rooster = Dragonroost!. We’ll actually have a ‘street sign’ for it soon. In each room there is a fierce dragon and rooster facing off – sometimes they’re obvious, sometimes they’re background. We get a kick out of that!

      Unfortunately, your daughter exists in a skewed world like I do. There’s probably a lot of people out there being responsible and taking care of their child support obligations without a hitch – but those probably aren’t the case she gets to deal with! I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to see so many parents who aren’t prioritizing supporting their children!

      Congratulations on your recent publication of Tiger Tail Soup – with all those great Amazon reviews I’m looking forward to checking it out!

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    • Hi Nicki! I was relieved to read that you’re not a Twitter-er. 🙂 At times I feel like the last woman standing but honestly I’ve got to set priorities in order to manage my time and Twitter and Facebook aren’t on that list at this point in time. I feel as though blogging is much more intimate than either of the two.
      Happy Weekend!

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  22. Wonderful to meet you Shel 🙂 anyone with Portuguese blood flowing through their veins is in my not-so-humble opinion blessed with warmth, fabulousness (is that a word? it should be) and an indomitable spirit! (yes, my parents are Portuguese).

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    • Hi Yolanda! I’m with you on the fabulousness of the Portuguese heritage! While Portuguese descendants makes up a large part of the population in New England where my folks are from, I never met anyone with that ethnicity in the Michigan area I was raised in, so I always felt it was special. Still do!

      I’m looking forward to reading more about you next week and hearing about what’s going on at Scriblings!

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    • Hi Yolanda! I agree, the Portuguese are such warm and welcoming people…now I see why you are the way you are…filled with fabulousness! 🙂
      Happy Weekend! I can’t wait for your spotlight!

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  23. Hello, ShelI am fascinated with the world of law, also feel I have an above average sense of humor. I am so sorry, Shel, that you have had to deal with cancer. This is a challenging life event, so glad that you have overcome the ‘battle,’ and hope for you and your family’s sake, that you never have to deal with it again. I was a Child Advocate with solely an elementary bachelor’s degree, at a battered women’s shelter. I really was ‘good’ at defending their rights and wrote a grant for more Ohio state money to be given to Childrens’ Programs in battered women’s shelters. I can relate to a small corner of your vast knowledge of the law! I had two life threatening events come into my life, due to this being open and candidly speaking to three major companies about putting Children’s programming into the ‘memo’ line of their donations’ checks. I quit after only 18 months and even moved away from that city. I have been single since 8 years ago, so I write about divorce, grandchildren, life after fifty, and relationships. I will enjoy your humorous posts and I also like thought-provoking ones.
    Hi Jill! I am hoping you are in the midst of a wonderful weekend! I enjoyed this very much! You have such a gracious style and ability to draw great people into sharing their lives with us! Thanks again, Jill!

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    • Hi Robin! I’m having a great weekend and I hope you are as well. 🙂 Thank you for your kind words. The past few months have been a joy for me. My goal to connect others and share more was reached…I couldn’t be more happy. 🙂
      Enjoy the rest of your weekend! xo

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  24. Hi Robin – it’s so nice t meet you. We do, indeed, seem to have a lot of overlapping interests! The humor being my favorite – the over-50 the inevitable!

    As you know, it is more helpful to be street-smart and have compassion when working with DV victims than any existing degree – sound like you were a fierce advocate! I would love to hear more about what happened with the companies you referenced and why things escalated to the point that your life was threatened – scary stuff!

    Thank you for visiting my blog – I look forward to hanging out with you in both places! Is there a way to sign up for email notices at your blog? I wasn’t able to find one, but I may not have been looking in the right place!

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  25. What a fabulous post! I still don’t understand twitter and remember the first thing I wrote on it was something like ‘I’m having a coffee’ and then I sat back to wait for the fireworks and responses (which never came) 😉

    Your job and life sound very interesting Shel. Great to meet you! 😀

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  26. Hi Dianne! Thanks for stopping by. I cracked up at your Twitter message. That’s exactly the reason I’m not into it, I don’t care to know every thought or action of a person. I’m sure the learning curve is low, but it’s just not something I’m interested in right now.
    Happy Weekend!

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  27. Shel, I LOVE Fat-Bottom-Fifties and I LOVE your blog’s wisdom and humor…but until this post I never combined the two. It would have helped if you’d put red-rimmed glasses on one of the cartoon ladies! 😉
    Jill, another great post!

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    • SURPRISE! I love that you liked them separately! As you can probably tell, the FBF is a bit of a getaway for me.

      Thanks for all the sweet memories “Things I Want to Tell My Mother”, Marylin – you’ve helped me more than once navigate the emotional journey of dealing my beloved mother-in-law as her alzheimer’s progresses.

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    • Hi Marylin! I agree, Shel’s post was wonderful. As summer comes to a close, I have a few more spotlights lined up. It’s been great learning more about everyone.

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  28. Shel, a pleasure to meet you! I love your writing, your humor and approach to Life! Jill, sorry I’ve been absent longer than I intended, but I do intend to meet the rest of the wonderful people you are hosting on your blog 🙂
    My thoughts and prayers are with you, Shel. I had cancer many years back … nothing like what you’re going through. The removal of my “woman” organs was enough to do the trick, but it was scary nonetheless. Yet, I found upsides: no more monthly cycles (and they were getting out of hand anyway); and a new excuse for bouts of bad (righteous) temper … I can’t take estrogen. That’s my excuse and I’m sticking to it 🙂
    Cheers, ladies! (PS Shel, I’ll have to check out your other blog since I’m over 50 and … well, I quality ;))

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    • Nice to meet you, too, Marie! You’ll have a blast catching up on all the neat people that have chatted here in the past couple of month – I’ve made so many fun connections!

      I’m so glad you’re on the other side of the big C – is that a royal pain in the tush or what?! Sounds like you had some major stuff to tackle and came through it with an appreciation how humor can help!

      Glad you’re checking out the FBF site – like you, my co-author, “M,” is an avid knitter – so knitting references find their way into a myriad of topics! One of her earlier posts actually had a picture of a man in crocheted hot pants – NOT good!

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    • Hi Marie! No apologies necessary. I’m glad you’ve taken a little R&R. I hope you’re doing well! 🙂

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  29. I was slow to jump into social media as well. The first time someone told me about blogging I giggled and thought what it was useless. Boy was I wrong. Now I love blogging. Nice meeting you.

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    • Hi TBM! I think the first I ever learned about blogging was from a movie. A young girl cooked her way through Julia Child’s cookbook and blogged about it.
      Thanks for stopping by to meet Shel!

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    • Nice to meet you, too, TBM. I love your story – connecting with somebody who slipped by the first go-round and seeing more of the world/life by riding your bike to work – way to capture the moments. And THIS is why conquering our social media phobias is such a good thing!

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  30. So Shel…we meet again…and again…and again…!! You know, I thought I had signed up to your blog ages ago and never did understand why I didn’t get any notifications. Duh…well, now that’s remedied and I’m following both! I was really looking forward to reading your post and It’s all I knew it would be…interesting, funny, so eloquently written and touchingly poignant. but I apologise for not getting here on Friday, my daughter was taken ill (better now thankfully) and in hospital so just manically catching up now, even more than usual, ha!
    I loved reading more about you and I love the name of your house….’Dragonroost’…I’ve never heard of that before, very inventive! And I know just what you mean about hayrolls…I love them too, having grown up in the countryside, always remind me of the coming autumn and of cosier days when I felt safe as a child. Funny that isn’t it? You know how much I love your writing and your wit…and I want to thank you for all the times you’ve made me laugh but also for your visits and your kind words when I’ve needed them. Social media is a wonderful thing in so many ways as many of us have surprisingly discovered after the fact and I’m mighty glad to have met you here…all over the place 😉

    Hi Jill…I made it over to you as soon as I could, phew! I’ll be in touch by email in a day or two… and I hope you are having a good week so far. See you soon 🙂 xoxo

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    • Hi Sherri! I told you there was no rush, but it’s nice to see your smiling face. 🙂
      Sometimes WP has a way of dropping our followers. I’ve had it happen several times. Oh well, nothing is perfect I suppose.
      Your daughter remains in my prayers, Sherri. I hope her health continues to improve. Talk to you soon! xoxo

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      • Ahh…bless you sweet, dear Jill and thank you so much. My daughter is much better thank goodness. I know you said not to rush but how can I not get over here as soon as I possibly can? I hate missing out on all the fun 🙂 As far as WP yes, I’ve had the same thing with dropped followers from time to time. Strange isn’t it? Oh well…win some, lose some!
        Have a great rest of the week and see you soon. I’m working on finishing up my post for you so will definitely have it ready if not today then tomorrow for sure. At last I hear you say!!!! Take care my friend 🙂

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    • Sherri! I’m so glad to see you again! And now that we’re officially plugged in to each other’s blogs we can stop stumbling into each other – we can connect intentionally like sober people do! I’m looking forward to hanging out with you more – you are definitely one of the positives for me in the pro/con blogging debate! One MORE thing to thank Jill for!

      I’m so glad your daughter is on the mend – sounds like there were some scary moments. I think there’s a lot of us that often can’t get to favored blogs right on post days – but, like you, that doesn’t stop me from blog-binging when I get a few clear moments!

      We’ll be chatting again soon, I’m sure!

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      • Thanks Shel! Haha…yes, no more lurking about and constantly bumping into one another 😉 And thanks for your kind thoughts for my daughter, she is much better. Phew!
        Definitely be chatting soon…meanwhile, have a great day 🙂

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  31. Laughing here at “fat bottom”. I have no experience with hayrolls – thanks for the painting a picture for me. My best wishes to you with your health and all your plans and goals.

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  32. Have a great week, Shel and Jill:)

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  33. Good to meet you Shel – another fascinating introduction for us Jill. I like what you say Shel about how big the world is when you’re a child, I was just thinking the other day about all the mysterious places nearby that seemed to be almost at the other side of the world when I was a child, when actually they’re so close.

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    • Thanks for stopping by to meet Shel, Andrea. I thought I knew her, but she revealed so much more in her post. I agree, as a child, everything seemed so much bigger and far away. I’ll never forget the first time I went inside my Elementary (grade K-6) School as an adult…I felt like a giant. 🙂

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    • Nice to meet you, too, Andrea! That whole ‘shrinking world’ thing is such a weird phenomena. I had to laugh at Jill’s back-to-school description – it’s like walking around inside a dollhouse!

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