Jill Weatherholt

Writing Stories of Love, Faith and Happy Endings While Enjoying the Journey

Huh?

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We’ve all been there. We meet that special someone and start the getting to know each other phase of a relationship. You find out where the person grew up, how many siblings they have, where they went to school, what they do for a living…the list is endless. Your head is in the clouds, you want to learn everything about this wonderful person.

This month, it’s been 17 years since I met my special someone, Derek. I was remembering our first date and all of the things we discovered about each other that night. As I enjoyed going down memory lane, I hit a speed bump when I remembered a question I asked. It was one of those questions where the minute you ask, you wish you could take it back.

That night, Derek told me that he has a twin sister. My question was, “Are you identical?”

Have you ever asked a question that you wished you could take back?

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Author: Jill Weatherholt

My name is Jill Weatherholt and I’m a writer. I have a full-time job, but at night and on the weekend, I pursue my passion, writing. I write modern stories about love, friendship and forgiveness. I started this blog as a way to share my journey toward publication and to create a community for other new writers. Raised in the Washington, DC area, I’ve lived in Charlotte, North Carolina since 2004. I hold a degree in Psychology from George Mason University and a Certification in Paralegal Studies from Duke University. My first book, SECOND CHANCE ROMANCE, will release in March, 2017. It's now able for pre-order on Amazon. I was the first place winner in the Dream Quest One Short Story Contest in the Winter 2014-2015 competition. In 2014, I placed second in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest. I was also a top ten finalist in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest in 2012 and 2013. I’m a 2010 and 2012 winner of the NaNoWriMo Contest. I love to connect readers, visit me at jillweatherholt.com

107 thoughts on “Huh?

  1. uh…yes, I have. I asked a colleague some twenty years ago, “When is the baby due?” She wasn’t pregnant. Although I had picked up from others she was, I have since learned to wait to hear it from the source before I jump in and ask. Painful!

    Thank you for sharing your story. Such is love. He obviously forgave it or pretended not to hear it.

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    • I asked that same question once many years ago, Georgette. Like you, I learned to wait until I heard it straight from the source.
      I believe Derek’s reply was, “Well, she’s a girl, so no.” πŸ™‚ Happy Weekend!

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  2. Haha….that started my morning well. I’m sure I have many that I have asked, but I blocked them all out! Happy weekend Jill. πŸ™‚

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  3. Oh, that’s priceless, Jill! I assume he must have seen the humor in your question, otherwise that would have been your last date πŸ™‚

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  4. LOL, Jill! Obviously he forgave you for that one. Congratulations on your anniversary!

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  5. Ay, Dios Mio! That is a classic, Jill. I am sure he got a lot of mileage out of that question for years. I can see me asking the same thing. πŸ™€ Due to my continued brain fog, I can’t think of an incident now but rest assured that there have been MUCHOS!!

    Happy 17 years!! Here’s a toast in your honor to many more years ahead!! 🍸🍹🍷🍻

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  6. I’ve asked the same question, Jill! In our defense, another option is fraternal twins. So are you identical or fraternal is a legitimate question.
    Happy Anniversary to you!
    I’ve asked many questions I wish I could take back. For example, I’ve asked, “Where are my glasses?” They were on my head at the time.

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    • Thank you!
      Well, it is a legitimate question, but I’m not so sure of it’s legitimacy when it comes to twins of the opposite sex. I appreciate you making me feel better though, Linda. πŸ™‚
      Ha ha…I worked with a woman who used to ask that very question, “Where are my glasses?”
      I hope you have a fantastic weekend!

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  7. Let’s hope for your sake that they weren’t identical! This is the kind of stuff that becomes legend in the family and will be included in the eulogy at your funeral!

    When I was new at a company, there were a several very obese women. There were two I had a hard time telling apart. Not for any logical reason. They didn’t look alike but they didn’t have a distinguishing feature. One day I called one the wrong name. She was so offended! They both weighed about the same! After that I talked to people directly if I wasn’t sure of the name.

    My husband says that when he originally met me, I said something so profound that he knew I was smart. We didn’t date until 20 years after that. I have no idea what I said that left that erroneous impression and he doesn’t remember either but I do remind him that I can be profound on occasion.

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    • Ha ha! No, thankfully, they weren’t identical, Kate! πŸ™‚ Ay, at my funeral…really?
      Okay, now I’m dying to know what that profound statement could have been. I think it’s great that you reconnected after all those years, but are you sure neither one of you can remember? This would make a great story!
      Enjoy your weekend, Kate!

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  8. HaHa. That was a good one. Someone told me once that their grandfather passed away and I said, “oh I’m sorry . Anything serious?”

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  9. Jill, that gave me quite a laugh to start the day. And yes, I have asked questions like that, too. I can’t remember anything off the top of my head, but I know I did when I was dating George.

    Congratulations on 17 years! I met George in 1990, but we didn’t really become friends until a couple of years later. He was an acquaintance at college. Then we began dating in 1993 and married in 1994. He’s my best friend. πŸ™‚

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    • Hi Patsy! I’m glad I was able to provide you with a laugh, to start your day. I still laugh about it…of course, when I asked the question, I wanted to cry. πŸ™‚
      Congratulations to you and George! It’s nice to be with your best friend, isn’t it?
      Happy Weekend! I’m still practicing my drawing. πŸ™‚

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      • Oh I’m sorry, Jill. I didn’t realize it made you feel that bad. 😦 But I guess when we were young and dating, we probably were a lot more sensitive to things like that. Well, I know I was.

        Thank you. It’s awesome to be with my best friend. I don’t think I’ve ever truly felt like I had a woman best friend after high school. Throughout my life, my best friend was always my mom. She’s been gone eight years this Tuesday.

        Today though, a good friend of ours passed away from liver cancer at 63. We have known he and his wife for almost 14 years. Jackie is actually the best woman friend I have had in a really long time; we just mostly only see each other at church and talk on the phone. We haven’t done a whole lot of fun things together, because she’s always working. And her husband was her best friend, so this is really going to be hard for her.

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      • I’m so sorry to hear about Jackie’s husband, Patsy. I’m sure you’ll do everything you can to help Jackie through this difficult time. It will be a rough road for her, but with friends like yourself, she’ll be okay. Praying for your friend, Patsy.

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      • Thanks, Jill. Wow, how did you read that so fast? I just published it! πŸ™‚ I hope to be the best girlfriend to her that she thinks of me as. She does have his family and her grown daughter nearby, though, too.

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      • I love to read! πŸ™‚

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      • Yes, you do! I do, too. I have so many books that I try to read at the same time. I think that habit developed in college. πŸ™‚

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      • I find myself reading more than one book at a time and I don’t particularly like to do that. If I only had a job where I could read full time…

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      • Yeah, really! But I can only read for so long before I have to do something with my hands! LOL!

        What kind of job do you have? Are you getting any of your writing published?

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      • I can only read so long and then I get sleepy, even if it’s a great book. πŸ™‚
        I work for the police department and love my job. As far as publishing, I’ve had two short stories published and I’m currently working on a third for submission.
        Do you work outside the home, Patsy?

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      • Yeah, I have to read to be able to go to sleep! I think it is left over from my college days. πŸ™‚
        What do you do for the police department? I’ve always thought it would be exciting to be an artist there that does composites of people that victims describe, you know what I mean? I can’t think of what they’re called!
        Where can I find your published short stories? That is exciting!
        I do not work outside the home. We live 45 min. from town, we’ve homeschooled for nine years, and now the kids are taking extra classes that I have to take them to town for. But they are only about a half hour’s drive away, so I come home and work on my art.

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  10. Okay well that just goes to show how intelligent I am because I had to read your question several times before I understood what was wrong with it!! Do not fear, you are not alone πŸ™‚

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  11. LOL….Love this, Jill. And yeah, I’ve probably asked a ton of those kinds of questions. Unfortunately once said it can’t be unsaid. BTW congratulations on your seventeen year relationship. That’s wonderful. πŸ™‚

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    • Thanks, Elizabeth! I’m sure if I thought about it, I could think of many other questions I’ve asked that were completely air-headed. My defense, he was too cute and I was nervous. πŸ™‚
      Have a great weekend! I’m so happy your bathroom renovations are behind you. It looks great!

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  12. Adorable! Oh, yes, I think we’ve ALL asked at least one question we’d like to take back!

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  13. I’m afraid more toads than gems have tumbled out of my mouth. So many… I am too embarrassed to share even one.
    Happy 17 years Jill πŸ˜€

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  14. Well WERE they identical?

    Jeez, I hate this artsy stories with vague endings!

    **shakes head and walks away**

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  15. Jill: I have a history of putting my foot in my mouth, so I can truly relate to what you’re saying! Aren’t first dates the most nerve wracking?

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  16. πŸ™‚ Is this now a story he tells at dinner parties Jill? Very cute! I am fairly sure there is not a day goes past when I do not say or do something incredibly dim πŸ™‚

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  17. I could fill a landfill with regrets for some of the words that have come out of my mouth. πŸ™‚ That one wasn’t too bad. Hope you have a great weekend Jill!

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  18. Congratulations on 17 years Jill and yes, I’m sure I’ve asked some embarrassing questions but I couldn’t possibly remember any of them πŸ™‚

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  19. I am laughing here, Jill πŸ™‚ Congratulations on your 17th anniversary. Even if Derek wanted to say, “duh”, he couldn’t have. He was way too happy to be with you!! Yes, I have asked questions that I wanted and still want to take back. I bet there will be many in the future:-) Have a great weekend!

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  20. That’s totally precious. LOL–my hunch is that you haven’t forgotten it because he found it so endearing, that he hasn’t LET you forget what made him fall in love with you. It’s our funny quirks that make memories.

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  21. When you’re delirious with attraction-leading-to-love, knowing the difference between identical and fraternal twins really isn’t on the Top 100 bits of intelligence you’re expected to have.
    It didn’t end the relationship; it made for a great story later!!!

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  22. I like this funny question and probably it amused him. Later, like now, you can still chuckle about it! I get nervous, especially on first dates, one of my brothers says, I ‘put my foot in my mouth,’ while one of my brothers likes to say, “Whenever Robin opens her mouth, it is to change feet!” Smiles, Robin

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  23. Oh, and happy 17 years this month and enjoy many more years to come! Congratulations for finding a truly good partner in life! Hugs for this story, Jill!

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    • Thank you so much, Robin! πŸ™‚

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      • Just wanted to pop over and tell you that I have enjoyed your recent comments, Jill! I hope you and your family have a lovely Easter filled with special moments and memories, too. I will be working longer days since people are now going to Advance Auto and ordering parts more to repair and wash their cars at home. I love the sunshine but the place is already warm with only fans all summer long! I am grateful for the nice coworkers and also, my family. My Mom and I will go shopping, eat out once and probably watch a few movies. I got one on Queen Victoria and an old fashioned one about a love story gone awry. My brothers come over so I did grab a few action movies, too. This just fills in some gaps to let you in on our plans. We may just eat the Easter dinner at the senior apartments. We found it to be quite nice and an open buffet. (My practical brother, Rich, is the executor of Mom’s monies, and says that ‘we pay for this meal!’ Smiles, Robin

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      • Thank you for popping over again, Robin. It sounds like you and your family will have a lovely Easter weekend. Like you, I’ll be going shopping with my mom and then enjoying a relaxing weekend with family. Enjoy, Robin!

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  24. Oh Jill, I love this! Firstly, many congratulations on your 17th anniversary of meeting your lovely Derek from Devon. I’m so happy that he came all the way from Devon to find you because you are a treasure and he knows it :–) This is priceless and I bet Derek loved it! I think it’s so endearing and makes me love you even more πŸ™‚

    I’ve said so many stupid things that a friend of mine who I used to work with still tells all her new work colleagues all about them. Apparently. One of our clients at the law firm where we worked was a police offer, and in chatting to him one day I mentioned that I’d not been back in the UK long after leaving the States and that my ex was a Correctional Lieutenant and so carried a gun, had guns etc. I was curious because British cops never used to carry guns here when I was growing up but they do now in certain situations. He told me he had been involved in situations involving a gun. I was being friendly, certainly didn’t fancy him and wouldn’t be forward in that way anyway and honestly didn’t think twice when, during the conversation, I innocently asked him, ‘Do you have big gun?’ Funny thing was, we never saw him again!!! So there’s my embarrassing story to add to the mix..

    Hope you are having a lovely weekend Jill, and celebrating with DfD with a lovely bottle of bubbly…cheers and hugs to you both πŸ™‚ xo

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    • Thank you, Sherri! I had a feeling you would enjoy this story. πŸ™‚ DFD was a true gentlemen and never acted as though my question was a complete foot in my mouth question.
      Just so you know, my coffee came out of my nose when I read your tale about the police officer and his “big gun.” That’s priceless! Thank you for sharing!
      Enjoy your weekend!

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      • Oh you knew I would have to run with this one Jill, didn’t you and yes, DFD is the perfect gentleman, for the perfect lady πŸ™‚

        Haha! Well, I’m glad it made you laugh! I had a sneaking suspicion that it just might! Sorry about the coffee though… πŸ˜‰

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  25. Yikes…supposed to be ‘a big gun’ not ‘big gun’!! Typical I made the mistake right there πŸ˜‰

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  26. He knew exactly what you meant, I bet! Everyone’s allowed one ditsy question when they’re trying to impress πŸ™‚
    Have a wonderful celebratory weekend together, Jill. Many congratulations to you.

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    • Oh yes, “ditsy” is the operative word in this scenario, Jo. Thankfully he overlooked the ditsy question or this post may have never been written. πŸ™‚
      Thank you, Jo! It’s been a great 17 years.
      Enjoy your weekend!

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  27. So many times in life have I opened mouth and inserted foot… πŸ™‚

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  28. Oh Jill, that is priceless – but I bet it went a long way to cementing your relationship!

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  29. When I think back to the moment I made that comment, I never imagined it would be building the foundation of our relationship. πŸ™‚ I don’t think he ever told his twin sister. πŸ™‚
    I hope you enjoyed your holiday, Jenny!

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  30. Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary, Jill! I have to admit a dumb blonde moment here. When I first read your post I wondered why asking Derek if he had an identical twin sister was a stupid question. I probably would have asked the same, I thought to myself. Then a moment later it dawned on me. Oh, right. Duh. I’m often slow to catch on. Have I ever asked a stupid question I wished I could take back? Uh, yeah. Too many times to count. Hope you’re enjoying the weekend.

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    • Thanks Gwen! Boy, seventeen years goes by in a blink of an eye…kind of scary.
      Oh you and Gemma, my blog Soul Sisters! Thank you for having a “duh” moment like I did so many years ago. πŸ™‚
      Have a great week! xo

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  31. So, what – you’re not going to tell us the answer?? I’m with Gwen on the “too many times to count” regarding my own stupid questions – let’s just say if I turned them into blog posts I’d have at least a year worth of fodder!

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    • Ha ha…you and Eric must be related, Shel. After meeting his twin sister, I came to the conclusion, they weren’t identical. πŸ™‚
      Isn’t it comforting to know we’ll never run out of fodder?
      Have a great week!

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  32. No. I never ever say something I wish I could stuff back in my mouth. Ha! Ha! Every day. Every minute. Every second.

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  33. I love it! What a precious memory and one you could use in a book Jill, it made me laugh out loud.

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  34. LOL. He went out with you again even after that question. He was/is smitten. Happy Anniversary on the this special day of meeting Derek. I have a friend who has triplets, two boys and a girl (they just graduated from HS). When they were babies, people always asked her if they were identical. Finally, one day she said, “Yes, except … that one doesn’t have a penis.” Hee, hee. Hope you don’t mind me sharing that here in a comment.

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    • Ha ha…yes, he did, Lori. I knew then, he was a keeper or maybe he was hard of hearing. πŸ™‚ That’s hilarious! What a great response from your friend! Triplets…yikes!
      By the way, I can’t wait for your next post. I’m dying to know what happened!

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  35. Haha! That’s amazing/adorable/hilarious. I can’t think of a specific one offhand but I know that it happens rather frequently.. the Boyfran and I take turns saying things and then immediately freezing, slumping our shoulders, and surrendering to the inevitable mockery that our words just invited.

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  36. Hahahaha. That’s cute. I’ve had people ask me more questions like that than I think I have asked others. Probably especially because we have a transracial family (white parents, Korean kids).

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  37. I’m known for putting my foot in my mouth. However this post reminded me of a date with the better half. it was early in our relationship and the better half dumped an entire beer in my lap. Accidentally of course. Oh first dates and the awkwardness. Now we laugh about it.

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    • Oops, beer in the lap…definitely a memorable first impression.:) It’s fun to remember and laugh about our initial dating mishaps.
      Even though a first date was exciting, I’m happy to not be going down that road any longer. πŸ™‚

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  38. LOL. Yup have lots of questions I probably shouldn’t have asked. You are too cute! Congrats on 17 years! πŸ™‚

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  39. That was a good “oops.” Too funny. I ask stupid questions so often it would be difficult to name just one.

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  40. Don’t even make me answer that question. It’s far better to stick with the identical twins one, and just ponder. LOL.

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  41. That is a great one. I remember asking someone, also if she was pregnant. And the woman just had a large abdomen. I was mortified. Then there is another one I still can’t get over (nor should I). Someone told me that her grandson had a serious illness and he would probably live for only a few more months. I said (I kid you not) “It’s probably for the best!” Can you imagine?

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    • Oh my! I can’t imagine that Hollis, but I’m laughing…can you imagine that? πŸ™‚ I guess we’re all guilty of putting our foot into our mouth more than once.
      I hope your doing well. Are you posting on your blog? I haven’t been able to get any updates if you are…let me know. I miss your lovely artwork.

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