Jill Weatherholt

Writing Stories of Love, Faith and Happy Endings While Enjoying the Journey

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“It’s not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about?” Henry David Thoreau

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about my blog. Perhaps it’s because I’m approaching my one year anniversary, which is hard to believe. Bloggers create, write and follow other blogs for a variety of reasons. They might blog in order to promote their work, while others try to build a platform, as they write their novel. Some do it for money, some just for fun.

I began my blog eager and excited to build a platform because that’s what new writers are supposed to do. In order to gain followers, I was posting every day and blog-hopping like mad. It was exhausting.

It didn’t take long for me to become the burned-out blogger who was overwhelmed each time I opened my Gmail account. There were new posts to read and respond to. Because I checked the notify me of future comments box at the bottom of each post I read, my box was exploding with everyone else’s comments.

In addition to all of the attention I was giving to other blog posts, I still had to write my own posts and respond to those comments. I soon began to despise my blog. I work full-time and this blog was stealing any free time I had to work on my WIP and other short stories. I was tired and I wanted to quit.

But then, each week I read all of the wonderful comments from my regular followers. People who have the same passion for writing and reading as do I, many who have become friends. The encouraging words expressed in their comments keep me writing that next post. I’m sure I’ll find a balance, but I must make sure my stories remain my number one priority.

How are you feeling about your blog these days?

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Author: Jill Weatherholt

My name is Jill Weatherholt and I’m a writer. I have a full-time job, but at night and on the weekend, I pursue my passion, writing. I write modern stories about love, friendship and forgiveness. I started this blog as a way to share my journey toward publication and to create a community for other new writers. Raised in the Washington, DC area, I’ve lived in Charlotte, North Carolina since 2004. I hold a degree in Psychology from George Mason University and a Certification in Paralegal Studies from Duke University. My first book, SECOND CHANCE ROMANCE, published by Harlequin Love Inspired released on February 21, 2017 and is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble.com. I was the first place winner in the Dream Quest One Short Story Contest in the Winter 2014-2015 competition. In 2014, I placed second in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest. I was also a top ten finalist in Southern Writers Magazine Short Story Contest in 2012 and 2013. I’m a 2010 and 2012 winner of the NaNoWriMo Contest. I love to connect readers, visit me at jillweatherholt.com

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  1. Oh dear Jill, don’t let it become a chore. I have three tips.
    1. Limit your ‘follows’ to other blogs. I have a strict rule now. If I follow a new blog then another is struck off to make way.
    2. You’re a saint if you read all the comments on the blogs of others. It can’t be done. Also, untick the ‘notify further comments’ box!
    3. Don’t feel you have to comment on other blogs, all the time.

    Best wishes.

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    • I truly appreciate your advice, Roy. It’s been months since I’ve followed any new blogs, but that is a great idea to get rid of one when you follow a new blog. I do that when I purchase a new purse. 🙂

      I know you’re right about not feeling like I have to comment on each blog, but it’s hard for me to only “Like” a post. I want the writer to know that I actually read the post and just didn’t “Like” it for the sake of getting my picture onto their blog.

      I hope you have a wonderful weekend, Roy!

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  2. I haven’t been at it as long as you have but I get your point and to a small degree I’ve been through your process. The trouble is that there are so many great WP people, how do you restrict your time reading them while giving support to those who support you? I have not yet worked that out otherwise I would share my answer. I guess in the end you can only do what you can do and hope that people understand. As you said, your stories must come first.
    Terry

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    • I appreciate your honesty, Terry. It is difficult to restrict my reading time because all of the blogs I follow, yours included, always have great content…plus, I love seeing your cute dogs. 🙂 Have a great weekend!

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      • Similar problems here…….. I need my daily fix of all you amazingly talented people………. I cannot go back to watching cat videos on YouTube……. I’m coming up to six months clean….. I want that medal……. sometimes in the middle of the night I crave funny cat videos but I turn on WP and the urge slowly fades…… Hi I’m Terry and I’m a cat video addict…… six months clean!!!!

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      • Wow, six months! Great job, Terry!

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      • Thank you, I owe it all to my sponsor…….. he may look like a unicorn to you but to me, he will always be…….

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  3. I always appreciate having the lovely comments from you Jill but if you just checked “like” I would know you meant it and be very happy with that. I started off trying to follow all the threads on posts where I had left a comment but stopped after the first few weeks because I too felt that blogging was taking up too much of my time. Please keep writing your excellent posts, I would miss you if you stopped.

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    • That is so sweet, Lynne, thank you. It’s so difficult for me to only “Like” your beautiful photos, I always feel as though I want to express my “Like” through words. I agree with you, I need to stop trying to follow all of the threads where I’ve commented. That is certainly a good place to start. Have a fabulous weekend, Lynne!

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  4. Furrylittlegnome was just like you in the beginning – visiting wordpress every day, reading, commenting, etc. it was like her blog was taking over her life! There is finally consistently for her: one post a week, picky about the blogs she follows and visiting those blogs, not every day but once or twice a week.

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    • Well, I think Furrylittlegnome has wised up when it comes to blogging. I hope to follow your lead. Once or twice a week is smart time management…everything in moderation right? Thanks for sharing your method. Enjoy your weekend!

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  5. It’s tough too keep up with everyone’s blogs, isn’t it? There’s so much great content and good writing or WordPress.

    That said, I’ve been sloppy when it comes to keeping up lately. your once-per-week pace is just about right for the likes of me. I just can’t read every blog that comes in every day. As for my own blog, I wouldn’t say I resent it (you did use the word “resent,” didn’t you? h a ha ha), but it does become a chore at times. I created mine to promote myself as a writer, but I’ve barely done any of that lately anyway. What happened to the good old days when writers could be eccentric recluses who emerged from hiding once every 20 years with a brilliant new manuscript?

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    • It really is hard to keep up, Eric. You’re right, there is so much good writing, I feel like I need my “fix” from certain blogs. I always look forward to your posts as they provide great advice, good music and always a dose of laughter.

      I’m in the same boat. I haven’t done nearly as much writing since I started blogging, but I hope to change that by implementing some of the advice I’ve received. Have a great weekend!

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  6. I can understand where you are coming from on this one and I think the key is to employ a little cynicism. I’ve been blogging for just under a year now and am still enjoying the experience while I can find things to write about – and blogging could certainly be the content of a future post. I quickly became cynical of bloggers who ‘followed’ me but didn’t leave a comment, or those who ‘liked’ my post and didn’t comment and who never returned to my blog again to see if they ‘liked’ anything else. Some people, I know, are genuine, but some are just speculating to either inflate their own blog stats, or to get me, out of curiosity, to click back onto their blog and hey presto – I’ve helped them to make money. Go get a proper job like the rest of us!
    So I am really happy when I see comments left from people I know follow me regularly (like your good self), and would be fine with them just pressing the like button if they felt so inclined, because I’d rather have a few genuine follows with whom I can strike up a worthwhile rapport than have loads of hangers on and hopefuls who are, let’s face it, time wasters and not interested in the slightest about what we write.
    I shall stick at blogging for the time being as I consider it a good discipline and can be a useful tool as far as my short story writing goes, but if it becomes a chore then I’ll take a break and return fresh a few months down the line.
    Good luck with whatever you decide Jill.

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    • I’m with you, Jenny. It didn’t take me long to figure out those followers who only follow to gain more followers…that’s a lot of follows in this sentence. 🙂 I think they’re people who just scroll through the reader and “Like” one post after another without reading the content. I would be scared to do that. I wouldn’t want to “Like” something that goes against my beliefs, religion or morals. I don’t get that at all.

      As I mentioned to Lynne, it’s hard for me to only “Like” your posts, Jenny. I really enjoy your blog. Sometimes when I read your posts, I feel as though I’ve taken a little trip across the pond. 🙂

      I agree, blogging has provided me with the discipline of getting something written on a deadline each week. For now, I’ll continue with once a week posts, but I’m getting nervous about how I’ll keep up when NaNoWriMo rolls around. 🙂

      Have a wonderful weekend!

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  7. Hi Jill!

    I’m so thankful to have met you and gotten to know you through your blog, but I understand your frustration. You want to do everything 100% but there’s only so much time in the day. I have enjoyed blogging these past two-and-a-half years. I only post once a week though (and sometimes life gets in the way and I have to skip a week here and there), and when my writing schedule requires it, I have to limit my blog-hopping. Since my husband became ill again last October, I seriously curtailed my comments on blogs. I’m easing back into it.

    Yes, there has to be a balance. I focus on quality over quantity. You have a quality blog with faithful followers. You’ve accomplished a lot in one year! 🙂

    Enjoy the rest of August. Our summer is flying by way too fast, isn’t it?

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    • I really appreciate your thoughtful comment, Jolyse. I’m thankful to have met you as well. I love that you like to talk writing and I hope one day to meet you in person at a conference. If I ever get up the nerve to attend one. 🙂

      Like Jenny’s blog your blog also makes me feel like I’ve taken a little vacation after I read your weekly posts. Thank you to both you and your daughter.

      I’m happy to know your husband is doing better. I hope he continues to have better days.

      Yes! This summer is going way too fast. In fact, this year has gone entirely too fast. Remember when we were kids and summer vacation seemed endless? Have a wonderful weekend, Jolyse!

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  8. Oh, Jill, I think a lot of eager writers go through the cycle you described above, including myself. Like many of your commenters, I have also settled on one post weekly. It’s just enough to keep me accountable and produce a thoughtful, quality post, yet not enough to get “blogged down.” I’ve also begun drafting my posts in Scrivener (rather than in WordPress), so I’m not distracted by my reader each time I log in. I’m trying to discipline myself to limit my time in the reader to a couple hours per week, but it’s hard, especially when I feel compelled to comment.

    As for the “following” quandary, I no longer feel obligated to follow a blogger just because he/she has chosen to follow me. Just like choosing a good novel, I need to feel a connection to the author’s voice and writing style, because this is what makes reading enjoyable. Within the list of blogs I follow, I have my inner circle — those bloggers whose posts I look forward to, and with whom I feel a certain mutual connection (you’re one of them). My time is valuable, so “mutual” must be part of the equation. Sounds a little ruthless, but we have to draw the line somewhere.

    As Jolyse stated above, you have a quality blog here with faithful followers. Don’t become a slave to blogging, because it will sour you to the outlet. Don’t feel obligated to read and comment on every post. Maybe do some selective reduction. I’d hate to see your wonderful blog fade into obscurity.

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    • I knew you would relate to my feelings, Gwen. I can’t believe when I first started the blog, I was trying to post everyday…what was I thinking? No doubt people got sick of me pretty quick. I’ve stopped following a few blogs because they post too much. Once a week has worked well for me, I just need to curtail the following of the comments.

      Since I started blogging, I’ve never followed anyone only because they chose to follow me. As you said, our time is valuable and I don’t believe it’s ruthless for us to want a mutual exchange.

      I’m happy to have met you through WordPress, Gwen, I so enjoy your blog. I really enjoyed your coming out of the closet as a lunch lady post this week…too funny! Who knows, maybe in the near future we’ll become critique partners.

      Have a great weekend! I hope the first couple days of school went well for you and your girls.

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  9. I’ve been at it since April, in preparation for a book coming out in October, and I’m definitely empathizing with you right about now! I love the blog, writing for it, planning posts, researching, and all the rest, but what I don’t much love is the obsessiveness that develops. Since there’s a practical goal (platform building), I find I’m getting way too worked up over stats and reaction to promotions like giveaways. The moment when I step back and take a breath is fast approaching.

    I’ll be interested to watch as you grapple with all of this. Thanks for paving the way!

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    • I’m not sure if I’m “paving the way,” Kevin. Some days I feel as though I’ve been run over by the paving truck. 🙂

      I agree, it has become an obsession. For me, it’s been more the planning of future posts that I’ve obsessed about. I haven’t gotten into monitoring my stats, but I can understand your reasoning with a book coming out in October. You’re right, October will be here before you know it. Wishing you all the best with your book. I’ll be sure and check out your blog to read more about it.

      Have a wonderful weekend!

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  10. Jill, I feel like you do — reading and commenting take too much time, time that should be spent on my WIP. I put most of the blogs I follow on weekly emails, rather than immediate or daily. Then I devote a couple of hours to reading through posts, “like” several of them, and comment when they hit home (like this one). I love making the connections, but I have to prioritize.
    But don’t despise your own blog! Consider it part of your writing portfolio.
    Best wishes,
    Theresa

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  11. I suppose I need to read up on the WP options, Theresa. I wasn’t aware you could have the posts delivered to you on a weekly basis. That may be a good option for me.

    It is great to make connections with other writers, but you’re right, we need to prioritize. I certainly don’t want to despise my own blog. I do believe after reading all of the comments and suggestions, the tide will turn.

    Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, Theresa. I hope you have an outstanding weekend!

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  12. Jill, I totally feel your pain! I too feel overwhelmed by all the blog posts I don’t seem to find time to read, and then I feel guilty because I want to be supportive of the bloggers I follow. I’ve learned a couple of tricks I’ll share:

    1. I ONLY open the reader–on my smartphone–when I have extra time, like sitting in a doctor’s waiting room or standing in line somewhere. And I scroll through the posts, only reading those that really catch my attention.
    2. I use the Notifications on the WordPress dashboard to stay on top of comments–no more subscribing to follow-up comments.
    3. I try to answer every comment to my own post; I put a lot of thought into the comments I make on other blogs, and I feel that anyone who takes the time to comment on mine deserves acknowledgment that he or she took the time and energy to do so, and those comments are the basis of the very valuable friendships I’ve forged through blogging.
    4. Whenever I have a few extra minutes in my day (when I take a break from editing, for example), I try to visit a couple of new blogs and comment on them.
    5. I manage the blogs I follow by making a conscious decision about how I receive the content–through email or the reader–and I’m not afraid to update those choices. Is my email overflowing with unread blog posts? Yes, most of the time! Do I feel guilty that I’m missing great content? You bet. But writing our own blogs and doing our own work has to take priority.

    I really value the writers I’ve come to know through blogging–like you!–so I’m excited to read what they have to say whenever they post. If that’s only once a month, I’ll be there, so as Theresa wrote, consider your blog part of your writing portfolio, and know your blogging friends love to read what you write!

    Sorry this is so long, but I’ve been feeling guilty about not having time to write a blog since Monday; now that I know I’m not alone, I feel better!

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    • Just like your blog, your comment above is full of great tips ~ thank you, Candace! Oh the guilt, it’s overwhelming at times, but you’re so right, my writing must come first. Have a wonderful weekend!

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  13. Hi Jill, it took me a long time to start my blog and when I did, I made a conscious decision to post once weekly. So far, I think I’ve kept to my plan. I also have to find a balance for reading and commenting on other blogs, especially now since the new school year started this week. I like the responses here from your followers. I will take their advice to find that balance.

    I look forward to reading your posts and if you have to take a break, I am sure all of your followers will understand. I am confident that each time I post, you will comment. Knowing this, I echo the thoughts of those who commented earlier…if you hit “like” only and do not leave a comment, I know that you truly like my post because you are a genuine blogger:)

    Now for a post on my blog this week- it might not happen. I am weary to the bone!

    Have a great weekend!

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    • Thank you so much for your reassuring comment, Elaine. As I mentioned in previous comments, certain blogs, like yours, I just have to comment. I hope you’re able to rejuvenate this weekend. If your post doesn’t happen this week, no worries, I’ll anxiously await for the next one. Have a restful weekend!

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  14. Hello, my friend! Got home today from a heavenly time away. I limited my screen time big time, but I did pop in on sites here and there. I am so behind now so I must catch up. I don’t know the answer to keeping a balance while blogging. It’s tough to know how to go about it without it dominating your life. I keep hearing people say that the best thing to do is to stay true to your real followers and keep having fun. 🙂

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    • Welcome home, Maria! I hope you had a relaxing time at the beach and enjoyed lots of great seafood.

      “Stay true to your real followers and keep having fun.” Great advice! I am having fun, especially when I read your hilarious posts. Thank you for always making me laugh out loud.

      Enjoy your weekend and don’t do too much laundry!

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  15. I had the notion a while back that I was going to use my blog to build a platform and become famous enough for agents to give me the time of day. These days, I just use my blog to say whatever’s on my mind, and ideally to push the boundaries of what I feel like it’s safe to say. So, the purpose of the blog has radically transformed, for me, over time. I hope you find a use for your blog that’s ideal for you.

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    • I’m happy to hear you’ve found a comfort zone with your blog, Chris. Before I started my blog, I heard so many mixed messages. Some published authors I know said, “Don’t start a blog yet, just write.” Then others said, “It’s a must.” Now that I’ve started, I don’t think I can stop. 🙂 Enjoy your weekend and thanks for stopping by.

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  16. Like you, I became blogged down. When I first started my blog, it was to help promote my books and I hated it. Never been much of a salesman. Now I blog because I enjoy it. It’s a way to find and communicate with people I’d never have a chance to meet otherwise, like your own talented and lovely self. It’s also an outlet for all my jumbled emotions. Now I’m working on a new novel, I too will have to find more balance. I just hope I can keep the fun and joy I have for blogging alive. Blogging should never be a chore. I believe most other bloggers out there understand the need for balance and will forgive a fellow blogger a few days away from the blogasphere. I hope you find your balance and keep blogging. I so enjoy your posts. 🙂

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    • I appreciate your kind comment, Elizabeth. You’re right, blogging shouldn’t be a chore. The perfectionist in me wants to keep up with all of the conversations and respond if someone follows up my comment with a question to me, but now I realize it’s too much.

      Have a wonderful weekend and thank you for sharing the beautiful poem on your blog. 🙂

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  18. Oh, dear Jill. Take a deep breath, stand, and admit: “My name is Jill Weatherholt, and I’m a blogaholic.”
    You’ve received some very helpful responses to this post, and I’ll add one more: Do NOT blog every day.
    Writing every day is good; posting every day is exhausting and drains the good out of writing because you don’t just post–your also follow and comment and respond.
    You are a wonderful writer who also has a job and a life to live beyond blogging. Make it your goal to stand and say, “My name is Jill, and I’m a recovering blogaholic.”

    Chose one day to post each week. Continue to do your own writing instead of writing for the post, and you’ll be surprised what good ideas emerge for that one-day-a-week post. You’ll find your mind “clicking in” at the same time each week with a new energy for a post instead of dreading each day the energy and effort that is wearing you out.
    If something spectacular needs an immediate post, jump in and do it…by choice instead of obligation.
    Prioritize your writing goals, energy levels, and fun escapes, and when you’re wearing down, give yourself a break.

    My favorite writing quote–and you already know this, I think–is by John Steinbeck: “The profession of book writing makes horse racing seem like a solid, stable business.”

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    • LOL! This is for you, Marylin…”My name is Jill, and I’m a recovering blogaholic.” What a sense of relief! I appreciate your advice.

      I’ve been posting once a week for a while now, but I must refrain from checking my gmail account so often because once I start reading new posts and commenting, my designated time for writing has passed. Since I’m now in “recovery,” when I get the urge to read blog posts, I’ll work on my WIP instead.

      I loved your post today with your sweet mother’s picture…of course I responded before I entered into recovery. 🙂 Enjoy your weekend!

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      • Jill, one of the nicest things about blogging is meeting special new friends, and you are one of the joys of my blogging experience. Think of me as you blogaholic “sponsor”–I have certainly been there, addicted and consumed to the point of neglecting my WIP, too. We’ll be each other’s sanity checks!

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      • Thank, Marylin ~ that sounds like a plan! I feel the same. My family and I so appreciate your e-mails full of advice and kindness.

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  19. Hello there. I think you have received good advice and suggestions from everyone. I would say sometimes we do feel overwhelmed by the amount of work that blogging involves. Knowing you I know you will come to a very nice decision about reducing the work load of blogging. It has been a little over six months since I started blogging and believe me in this time I have not written anything for the newspapers as I used to and I had started work on a biography which stopped in its tracks when I started to blog. But gradually I think I am learning to balance everything. But like everyone else I am also becoming blogaholic, nice to know you are recovering from it now. I am also overwhelmed by my gmail account. Its been a while I have not checked it. Let your emphasis be your own writing and like everyone else I would not mind at all if you just put a like if you like my post and I would be very happy with it. I am your friend and friends need to help each other. I love your writing and would want you to concentrate on that. For such a prolific writer like yourself I would want you to lesson the extra burden with immediate effect. That’s an order from an honest, caring friend.

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    • I did receive some great advice, Samina. But, an order from you, attention must be paid! 🙂 Thank you for your kind and caring words; your comments always brighten my day. I hope you’ll also find some balance so you can continue work on your biography and for the newspaper. I’m sure the subscribers are missing your work. Here’s to finding balance, Samina! Have a wonderful Sunday!

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  20. Wow. I needed to read this today. I hear you, Jill!! Blogger guilt is insidious. I’ve felt guilty for not blogging daily or keeping up with the many blogs I follow, though one computer became a casualty (just posted about that) and work intruded. All you can do is what you CAN do. Like everyone else, be good to yourself. Cut yourself a break, Jill. Those who follow your blog (and I’m one of them) will follow you whether you post once a week or once a month.

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    • Thank you, Marie, I truly appreciate your comment. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to putting pressure on ourselves. I was so sorry to read about your computer casualty, that is so frustrating. I hope you get things resolved soon. Thanks again for the opportunity to read, Radio Girl. Happy Sunday!

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  21. I love your blog, but like everyone else here, I totally understand what you mean. I used to be much better about blogging, but now when Kati and I are busy and we miss a couple of posts I don’t stress about it. I think blogging is important and I love the connections I’ve made with other writers, but the actual writing always has to come first. I know I’m also not as good about following other blogs as I used to be, either – I used to try and check every day, and now I go to my “regulars” probably once or twice a week to catch up on their posts, and I no longer comment as often (although like you I do feel the “like button” guilt…).

    My advice would be to just not be afraid to take a hiatus if you need it – better to take a month off and come back feeling refreshed then to feel like this whole thing is a chore. I always enjoy reading your posts and your comments on our blog and appreciate the time you take, too – just wanted to mention that. 🙂

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    • Thank you, Heidi, I appreciate you mentioning that. 🙂 I certainly need to adapt some of your ways and not stress about the blog like I’ve doing. I love coming up with the ideas and writing the posts, it’s the keeping up with other blogs that makes me feel overwhelmed, at times.

      All of my regular commenters, including you and Kati, have wonderful blogs that I love to read each week. As I’ve mentioned, I think receiving the feed of all comments is what’s jamming up my Gmail. I’m working on it, but it’s hard not to stay part of the conversation.

      Have a great week!

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  22. Jill, I too am feeling bogged down by blogging. I have 3 of them, and since blogging is sort of a community project, it’s a lot of work because it’s 3 sets of other people’s blogs I read, as well as writing my own posts. Each one has a lot of meaning to me, although Writer Site is the one that is more “for me,” if that makes sense. My adoption blog is for my kids, and my genealogy blog is for my extended family. But I am getting very tired, and I am not sure how to handle it. I might just rest at least one of the other blogs for a little bit and see if I can get a little rest.

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    • Three! I had no idea, Luanne! I love Writer Site, so I hope you don’t put it to rest, but that’s selfish of me. I would say keep the blog or blogs that give you the most pleasure and are closest to your heart.

      I have no idea how you’ve been able to keep up with 3 blogs…my head would explode. I think you need to ask Marylin to sponsor you as well. 🙂

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  23. I’m coming up to 2 years and thinking it’s time for a change of direction, but there’s no escaping that I’m addicted, Jill! 🙂

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  24. I’m late to this chat because of my recent policy to set aside a couple of times a week to get the blogs I enjoy. Which means sometimes I read two posts from the same blogger in one sitting. Like you, I can’t resist commenting to let the author know I came, I read, and I appreciated. Also, like you, I have a full time job and other writing projects going on, so prioritizing tasks is challenging. I can’t give up the blogging – just the act of doing it has sparked more creativity and writing discipline. Yet, something must go. I’ve decided not to clean my house.

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    • LOL! I think I might have to try that one, Shel! My house gets cleaned often because I’m procrastinating when I should be writing. It’s hard to keep up with all of the great blogs out there. I love yours since I worked in the area of family law for 18 years, I can relate. Enjoy the holiday weekend!

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  25. I love my blog because after 3 years we’ve come to an understanding. I post twice a week. I interact with everyone who comments and I do my best to pop in and visit other bloggers who don’t comment when I can. 🙂

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    • I love that you and your blog have an “understanding” Kourtney. I think it’s great that you interact with everyone. I do the same thing. I’ve stopped commenting on blogs where the writer doesn’t respond to comments. It makes me wonder if they are even reading them.

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  26. I’m so glad I came across this post! I am at a kind of impasse with my blog right now. I can’t maintain what I (re)started in February. I too have a day job that has become busier and promises to stay busy for the foreseeable future (meaning I have less time to sneak peaks at my blog or other blogs). I was going to cut back to twice a week original posts but I might make that once a week, with an option to do a second original if I have time. I think my problem is that I might be trying to be too organized, too workman-like with my blog. I have a collaborative post with John Howell on Mondays which has worked out very well since we take turns coming up with the original post. Then I thought I should define whatever my second post of the week would be. But I hate putting restrictions on myself …enough of that happens at my work place ;). You are inspiring me to let go a bit more, realize that I don’t need to be ever-present in the blogosphere. I’m seeing more bloggers cut back because they simply are too busy (especially if they have day jobs).
    I also agonize over reading and commenting on other blogs. Someone in the comments said that once you’ve established that you are a true follower, just clicking the Like button is good enough. I have started to do that with some blogs that I used to always comment on. Plus, sometimes I just really like a post and my comment wouldn’t add much more than that.
    So here is a long comment 🙂 You’ve gotten some great advice here and a lot of it I’m going to take for myself :). Oh, I am so glad you’re still blogging too. I would miss you!

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    • Thank you very much, Marie. I would miss you as well, so I hope you’ll work out a blogging schedule that won’t be so overwhelming. Since I’ve started blogging, my writing time has been impacted, so I had to re-evaluate my priorities. I still have a difficult time not staying in the conversation once I’ve made my comment, but receiving every comment to every post I commented on was stressing me and my in-box. I did decide to stop following blogs who posted every day…I couldn’t keep up. I don’t think it’s fair to follow someone and not actually read their posts. We’ll figure it out…eventually. 🙂

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      • We think a little differently about following other blogs. I guess for me, even if I don’t read their posts regularly, the blogger still gets to claim me as a follower. And for some bloggers, that’s important. I know there are a lot of bloggers who follow me who haven’t read beyond one post. (God help me if everyone that followed me commented on all of my posts!)
        When I follow a blog, I usually check out at least one post before I start following someone, but after that it’s always possible that I won’t make my way back. It’s frustrating because I want to show support by reading and commenting. But, gee, there are just not enough hours in the day! 😦

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      • LOL! I hear you, we’d never get anything accomplished if all our followers commented and we commented on their comments. I guess I don’t understand why someone wants followers who don’t read their posts. I’m definitely not into the stats when it comes to blogging. I just want to meet wonderful people, like yourself, and learn from each other.

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      • I agree and, yes, I think it is the stats that some people want. I have to admit I get hung up on them sometimes too 🙂 But when I post less, I don’t notice them as much. Another good reason to slow it down 🙂

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  27. It’s timely that I saw this post today, Jill. I am feeling the same way right about now. I haven’t been nearly as active this year as in the past because I haven’t had the time! I am beginning to feel discouraged about my picture book idea and feeling overwhelmed with other stuff, namely my shoulder again! UGH. Oh well, I guess I just need a day to rest today. 🙂 Keep up the good work.

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    • I’m happy this post came at a good time, but I’m sorry to hear your shoulder is acting up again. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Believe me, we all have moments, sometimes days, of feeling discouraged with our projects. I think you’re making great progress. Rest up this weekend! xo

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      • Jill, thanks for your encouraging words! Sorry I didn’t see them right after you posted this! I am doing a lot better. Just have to keep up the exercise band exercises that the physical therapist gave me! Sometimes I just forget to do them. 🙂 I hope you had a nice Memorial Day weekend, Jill.

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