“I don’t think this is working for me.” It’s been over twenty years since I’ve heard those words spoken to me or since I have spoken them to another person. These words can leave the person on the receiving end stunned. Recently, an e-mail from a dear friend rekindled the memories of how painful a break up can be. There were some issues in the relationship, but she was caught off guard when he ended it. Whether you’re a teenager or an adult, having your heart broken is a universal pain. No one is immune from a broken heart.
Break ups are difficult when you know things aren’t working out. You sense something is off and you fear you might be one more disagreement away from the end. When you are blindsided by the other person’s decision to end the relationship, it can bring you to your knees. You search for the red flags you might have missed and look for anything you could have done wrong. You’re left longing for answers. Many times, the questions will go unanswered.
Unfortunately, I don’t have the answers for my friend. She is a loving and beautiful person who does not deserve the pain she is feeling. Her heart has been shattered. I want to tell her the relationship was broken and her heart will love again, that life gets better. I want to give her a big hug, but she lives in another state, so for now, I’ll listen.
Through her tears, I’ll listen as she recounts the events of their last conversation and reminisces about their time together. Sometimes I might only hear whimpering through the phone, but I’ll keep listening because that is what friends do for each other.